1. Set
out a marital vision, mission, goal and yardstick for measuring the goals.
2. Carry
out a CBA (cost benefit analysis) of your marriage it helps to keep you on
track.
3. Understand
the impact of in-laws in marriage and learn to deal with it.
4. A
little assumption, presumption or perhaps ignorance could hamper you marital
bliss think twice before making marital decision.
5. Take
your marriage as both a business venture and social venture, when logic ends
you supplement with love.
6. Success
and failure in marriage can be calculated mathematically.
7. It
is not compulsory that your spouse become your business adviser. If your spouse
is more convenient with paid job such spouse might not be the best adviser on
risky venture. You need professional business adviser when your spouse is not.
8. The
future of your marriage can be extrapolated from present happening but most
time we try to ignore or perhaps suppress the obvious with illusions.
9. A
wife is primarily a money-spender and a husband is primarily a money-gatherer,
all other definitions of a husband and wife are secondary.
10. Love
your spouse as if today was your last day on planet Earth and remember no
marriage in Heaven so love, love and love.
11. It
is good to receive love and also better to give love
12. If
you want love then remember your spouse also want love
13. Carry
out analysis of marriages around you and let the good behaviour be your dos and
the bad behaviour the don’ts in your marriage.
14. We
need mentors in marriage but don’t give up your marital privacy in the name of
seeking advice.
15. Abuse
in marriage is not a secret please get help. sweet spouse don’t abuse each
other.
16. Staying
in marriage is a determination, which is back up by logic.
17. You
need to stay married once married.
18. The
centrifugal forces are not more than the centripetal forces, you choose your
destiny either to remain married or to check out.
19. It
is economically proven that the shared financial burden in marriage out pays
the double-individual spending due to break-up.
20. ‘I
love you’ is both a complex and a dynamic statement. Be careful and really slow
when making it because once made you action and inactions will be determined by
it and because it is complex and dynamic, please be careful.
21. When
you know your spouse is a career person and you wish to turn such a one to full
house spouse after marriage, you are either a devil’s incarnate (The Devil came
to … destroy … John 10:10) or an arrogant fool.
22. Extra
marital affairs whenever and wherever it is found have a way of building
eternal bridges even when the cause is obvious the result is always hated.
23. That
you approach someone above your league to become your spouse because you are
Labrinth’s cousin or you give up and pursue your colleague does not prove the fact
that you are either faith-filled or fear-filled, it only shows that some people
are risk-averse and some are risk takers.
24. When
you are in love everything seems beautiful but when out of love everything
becomes chaotic yet LOVE never change, then what change? YOU
25. Happily
ever after is both possible and impossible, it depends on YOU.