MY THOUGHT ON MY NIGHT BED 106

The world adjure you a man by your:

Ability

Boldness

Callousness

Dexterity

Extravagance

Fashion

Gluttonous

Highhandedness

Intelligent

Just apposition

Kindred

Lioness

Merriment

Naughtiness

Opportunity

Popularity

Quest

Rashness

Sagacity

Thunderous Tongue

Unwillingness

Virility

Weirdness

MY THOUGHT ON MY NIGHT BED 105

That a man comes up and tells you his past does not mean you must marry him.

What if God has not called you into the relationship life the man is offering and remember God said ‘as many as he called ...' what if you were not called to marry a poor man but went ahead to marry a poor man in the name of love, you may feel frustrated all your life. As much as I don't want to make a general statement, it is point knowing that when a fiancé or fiancée opens up to you; it is not a show of love to still go to the altar with the person if you think or perceive you can't live with the person past. If you decide to call marriage quit you have done no wrong and if you wish to continue you are not more righteous either. That you believe the person was God sent and ordain before the present truth you now know does not mean that if you call marriage quit you are a sinner or you never really love the person.

Remember some love hold on while some love let go.

You must make calculated and thoughtful risk in marriage and not just single moment decision or because others have this particular challenges and got marry and people praised them for their love, you too want to marry your partner despite her challenges in order to get the appreciation of people, remember people appreciation does not sustain a marriage it is the two of you that will be married together (remember Ananias and sapphire they both died because of seeking people applauds). Marrying someone with a past is not the issue but surrender your life to years of woes just because someone was true to you and the ignorant thinking of what if my future spouse has not open up we will still have being married. Your future spouse owes you the duty into their past that could possibly have an enduring impact into your wedding; that you future spouse did not inform you does not mean it is right. Marrying to prove you love or that your love is strong-deep is also unnecessary. We don’t marry to prove a point we marry to achieve what we can’t achieve alone and not to brag to others that you have now changed your status from single to married. Marriage is a relationship for a life time and though there is no perfect person without a past still you must be a risk manager and know the extent you can go. If you desire children why marry a lady without womb to show her love. That you marry a lady with womb does not even guarantee you will have biological children but with a woman without womb the risk of not having children is higher. I know of miraculous delivery but why take a risk except of course it was the abortion she did for you that led to her losing her womb. Though womb loss could come through different means and complications but the popular mean is abortion. You owe your fiancé or fiancée to keep the secrets but not a debt of marrying them and that you have shared your secrets to eleven man and they left you does not mean you should lie to the twelfth man; he may just be the person that is ready to take you with your past and your keeping of the truth may really affect his trust for you which is a silence killer of love.

What about emotional management of situation and information. Sometimes when we lose opportunities all we can ask for his forgiveness and not the lost opportunities. Every sinner was once a saint and everybody has a past.

MY THOUGHT ON MY NIGHT BED 104

When you come to the mountain of greatest faith in your life, where all your faith merged with the Saviour's promise and for once you think or perhaps you saw God’s face and believe that you cannot be denied and your expectation will materialised.

... but after seeing God’s face you still miss the necessary miracle and you left the altar after desperately crying unto God ad trusting him for a miracle.

At those moments of life when you have deeply trusted and believed God but you were denied, you are tempted to say to yourself, 'despite all my prayer this thing still happen, I still lose this things’ then you come to that conclusion ‘why did I pray in the first instance, I would live my life from now on without trusting God for anything after all when I really prayed I still not get the desired answer. I could have put the time use in praying into some other profitable use’

I want you to know that you are neither the first nor the last to have made such statements in your passage while leaving on planet earth. The other day I make similar pronouncement.

The reality of life is that it is a slow fade and soon you think you can direct your destiny without God after all He never answers prayers therefore why bother your head about God. You will accept the fact He exist but won’t accept the fact He answers nor listens to your heart cry. You then become a religious atheist. Soon you will grow old and remember the days you trust God as a full waste of time before long you will totally forget God.

These are calculated and time tested tactics of the devil to make Christians lose faith in God. You might have heard of once fervent Christians that said God could not heal this ... and could not do this ... therefore I left him. You might have even heard those people say to you that when you get ‘older’ you will leave this God and stuff like that.

But one thing is certain God holds the world and He has the infinite decision to either answer or not. He also determines the mode of answering and when to answer and when it seems he chose not to accept according to what we want, we should never turn our back on him. Do you know that God has feelings? He feels hurt when I asked him for something and He did not give me and I decide to leave his presence. He feels I only come around for the gift and nothing more. God too wants trusted friends and dependable pals. So no matter how many times you pray, remember God answers prayer and He chooses the mode of answering all our prayers.

For without faith it is impossible to please him. Never trade that childlike faith even in the face of seemingly unanswered prayers. God loves you and will work out the very best for you. God holds all the secrets and by and by we will understand it.

SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS

There are different kind of success in our world. But a more desirous type of success is a sustainable success, a success that can stand the test if time. A success that is diversified and can easily adapt to varied environment. We are living in a dynamic time and everything about us must be dynamic. We should be a step ahead and not wait for the market to determine or tell us where are supposed to be or what we are supposed to be doing.

TOO BUSY

It is a busy world ... but never be too busy to:
 

Appreciate others

Beckon goodbye and hello

Care for colleagues

Dance with your loved ones

Enjoy moments with your enemies

Fellowship with the fatherless

Grace the ceremonies you are invited to

Hallucinate about your dreams

Insulate yourself from the whim and caprices of the devil

Judge your actions and intentions

Kill all and any habit that is destructive in your life

Love the world

Meditate on the word of God

Nudge a friend

Obey your parents, spouse, siblings and parents

Preach to and pray for someone

Quit sinning

Raise your voice for a good cause

Sow seeds of love in others

Teach others, tender others and train others

Use your gifts for the world

Vacillate and ponder a while before making decision

WOW the world

X-ray your life before the mirror of God

Yield your life to JESUS CHRIST and HIS gospel

Zing through the crowd to achieve stardom

We appreciate your feedback.

For private mail, use: smadeshina@gmail.com 
image from Google.