It is disgusting and sometimes
annoying yet it is a reality. I first thought I was living in Adam's time to
have such nauseating taste yet the world of 'woods' keep informing the younger
mind as if that is the expected norm and reality of our days. Silence is tantamount
to acceptance and when truth is shut, lies prevail therefore I have to pen
this. I am a strong believer that the maker or author of something or an idea has
the sole right to determine its ability or capability. As a user I can better
adapt the equipment to my particular circumstances but that does not give me
the right to conclude or infer that the general intention of the author was
wrong and it is mine own usage that the equipment is meant for.
I have seen the 'woods'
publicising and emphasising the idea of love. You almost conclude that life is
all about love though I am not condemning the overemphasis on love because the
truth is love is a great necessity in this generation and love as a harbinger
to marriage is almost an agreed rule in all human institutions.
This article is set forth to explain
the scenario love as a harbinger to marriage has brought us into. I believe
that ‘love’ would not have wanted to do this itself but the mixing of love,
emotion and humans have brought this. My concern is the inability of partners
to sit and discuss the future of their relationship when drifting start. Sometimes
the partners feel it is too early or that it is not of important; though this
is not problematic if it does not lead to challenges in the future. There have
been great hetero-gender partners that never married and remained great
partners after their marriage to different spouse … but there are hetero-gender
partner that wanted their relationship to climax into marriage but allowed religious
inclinations, parents’ opinion, personal bias or any supposed fear to ruin the
relationships and are now leaving a life of lost love.
Scenario 1:
A woman walks up to his man and
informs him that a guy is interested in her and has invited her to lunch. The man
smiles and said yes you can go with him. The Woman thinks for a moment and asks
what about you, who will take you to lunch? (perhaps the man may have reason
that denying the woman the opportunity to have lunch with the guy could have ended
him being term as unsecure but is it not better to be unsecure than to mourn
all your days for pushing the person you love away?) The man answers I will be
fine and that I will get someone else to go with me to lunch. The woman came
back and tells the man all the fun and experiences she had with the guy, which
in itself is not bad only if it does not build comparism in her mind between her
man and the new guy. The instance when the man becomes jealous and decides to
keep silence instead of having a discourse with the woman about their present
relationship and its possible outcome in the future then there is a big issue.
The man decides against having a discourse and decides to gets intimate with a
lady with the hope to make his woman jealous and make her come back to him. The
man and the woman continue in their different stride and the woman thinks the
relationship with his former man is over and decides to get real intimate with
the new guy and never for once thought that the relationship his former man is into
is based on vendetta and an action decided to make her jealous and come back.
The scenario would have ended ok but
the twist that comes into it in both reality and the never ending love story of
the ‘woods’ is that the woman gets to know that he has broke the heart of his
long-lover-man and coincidentally the deep-in-love experience with his guy becomes
suddenly shallow and less interesting and therefore decide to come back to his
former man who is also into another lady. The man sees her former woman come
back as an opportunity to reignite his love lost and he starts singing the song
‘loving you and holding her.’ Suddenly the man sees cheating as the way to
satisfy his former woman. He breaks up with the lady and marries his former
woman and they both leave happily ever after. The conclusion seems wonderful but
for the single fact that in reality, sometimes, the man would have married the
lady or/and the woman would have married the guy.
Since marriage is for life it is
left for both the man and the woman to kiss the loving relationship and the
ever ‘if’ question that would arise to the back of their heart. The desire to
flirt, have extra marital affair and divorce to reunite the good old days is a
sin and the maker of marriage clearly states it out in his marriage manual (The
Holy Bible) that He hates divorce and all type of extramarital affair.
In conclusion, I think it is good
for a man/woman to clearly consider all past relationships, have a long
discourse with past partners, get necessary answers where necessary before
walking the aisle with either his former woman/man or a new lady/guy and remember
to consider God because only He knows the past, today and tomorrow. The best is
to have a good relationship while growing up without necessary attachment and
learn to consider God in all you.