I can't seem to laugh or perhaps
comprehend the kind of jokes or love stories I have been listening to in recent
time.
The joke or repeated tease that a
lady must not marry a poor man but rather a rich man is really amusing in all
circles. As much as I would not love to give my daughter to a poor man, giving
my daughter to a man just because he has money does not make any economic sense
to me let alone a spiritual leaning.
Between the fear of going to the
extreme of love as the sole purpose of marriage, I want to be careful as not to
say that the presence of money should also be the only foundation on which to
base marriage. As love grew wings and fly away in marriage, money also grow
wings and fly away in homes therefore the present presence of any of these duos
are not sufficient condition for marriage.
We witness daily marriage and daily
divorce though not because all these marriages are based on either money or
love but for so many things, which includes over reliance on love, marriage,
...to the neglect of other things.
We live in a 'dynamically dangerous
dispensation' and I prefer that money and love be put in their right
perspectives in marriage and life.
I belief that marriage demands more
than love or money.
The reality of divorce has caused
us to 'ponder, ponder, ponder' before one take the long and eternal step of
marriage. Source of income, spiritual leaning and learning, division of
responsibilities, rights, obligations and determination to marry and remain in
marriage are just some of the things to ponder before marriage. The list is not
exhaustive but that does not mean we should remain single or doubt love or run
away from advances from rich people.
It will be utter foolishness to
leave someone you want to marry just because he or she is rich. Richness alone
should not make you reject proposal but your acceptance should not just be
based on richness.
Also It will be utter foolishness
to leave someone you want to marry just because he or she loves you. Love alone
should not make you reject the proposal
but your acceptance should not just be based on love.
In summary, the entertainment
industry has made a lot of money, joke, operas from one sided marriage story.
Most times it is love, some other times it is money....
But we can't remove the fact that
the future cannot be correctly predicted by any human being therefore there is
a need to combine love, money and spiritual guidance while not forgetting the
'fifty thousand coaches' that are speaking to us, our personal inner voice and
our determination to marry and remain in marriage no matter what happens.
The Holy Book says 'In all your
ways, acknowledge God and He will bring to pass your heart desires'
As you ponder on that marriage
proposal, please remember God.