October 02, 2015

CHOOSING MARRIAGE PARTNERS 003



This is an academic piece that analyse different methods of choosing marriage partner. The writer picks up biblical scenario and discusses them in full while providing take away.

CASE 3: SAMSON
Judges chapters 13, 14, 15 & 16

Many a times we hear people quote the scriptures and allude to Samson’s scenario as the worst case for choosing a marriage partner. We will take a discussant view of this real life event and provide some take away, which will expect you the reader to ponder and develop the best path for your life.
Samson was a beloved son. He was God’s answer to the waiting family of Manoah. His birth, conception, delivery, mission and purpose in life were prophesied by God. The Spirit of God was upon and he increased in the Lord and was well favoured. Samson was bold and demanded that his wife get him the girl that pleases him. The demand for his parent to get him a wife is not the issue, it was the lady demanded for (the daughter of the philistines). God already forbids the Israelites to marry the philistines. Samson has a soft spot for ladies. His undoing was the daughter of Timnath and Delilah. He also has soft spot for ladies. Soft spot is not a problem when you can discipline yourself and know how to control yourself. Due to soft spot and lack of a team to help advice and keep him on track he lost his wife.
Samson went in to commit immorality with an harlot. He forgets Proverb chapter 6 vs 20 to 35. He was a Nazareth but in one singular moment of emotion and frustration due to loss of wife, he lost it all. This goes further to prove that emotion is stronger than knowledge and that there is no superhuman. He could have also built a team but did not. In the battle against the philistines after his victory he could not prayed to God with faith but requested from God of water like a man without faith.
At the end of his life he prayed and God hearkened unto him and restore to him is power. He killed more on his death bed than in his life.

TAKE AWAY
1.       Samson was bold and demanded for what he wants. Everyman must be determined and bold in demanding for what he wants. A man should not be shy to approach the lady he likes.
2.       He never had a team that were dependable and trust worthy.
3.       Having a soft spot on matters of destiny and life could be disastrous for a man. ‘... Keep the doors of thy mouth from her that lies in your bosom.’ Micah 7:5
4.       Never fight alone, have a team.
5.       Never be over confidence, it is not spirituality to abstain from your wife and determine not to marry.
6.       Any man that will tarry long in the presence and service of God must have faith and must request from God his desires and not charged God as a faithless man.
7.       Anybody can fall given the temptation to sin and opportunity to sin. Our prayer should be Lord do not let the temptation to sin and opportunity to sin to meet in my life.
8.        No matter how far you have gone, when you sincerely come back to God he will answer you and will do more with your life than you have ever thought of.
9.       The victory of the wicked will always be short live. Any victory over a righteous can never last long.
10.    Who will marry DELILAH?
11.   Will any man be MAN enough to marry a woman who in exchange for money sold out the secret of a man that loves him?
12.   A harlot will always be a harlot, she sell sex for money and will always go with the highest bidder.
13.   Any man that leaves his wife for a harlot (either you call it a concubine, another wife, a side-affair, etc) the reward is always the same: a wound and dishonour will he get.
14.   Immorality, lack of team to guide and guard you on life’s path, indecision and soft spot without discipline on matters of eternal consequence spoil his marital life.
15.   He had no teacher, prophet or seer to guide him. He was a loner and there was not a singular record when he studied the scripture.

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